My son is feeling much better, but his memory is patchy from Sunday. I went to see him Sunday afternoon. He was outside looking for something in his truck. Apparently he’d gotten mad at his ex-girlfriend that he’d broken up with on Friday and threw his phone because she wouldn’t leave him alone. Plus, he was tired of people texting him about what happened. He couldn’t find the battery to his phone and was searching all through his truck. After he finally gave up, he found both his sim card and his battery in his pocket. He didn’t want his phone, so Kiwi gave him her spare. He was still half-lit from being drugged. He looked awful. He told me that this female friend of his, who works at a bar & grill, served him 4 very strong margaritas. Not the smartest thing to do, considering what he already had in his system. He felt horrible and told me he wished the stuff would hurry up and get out of his system.We were standing at his truck and he was having problems getting the window up. His interior door panel was hanging on by a thread and he no longer had a door handle. Not sure how that happened, but the panel was in bad shape already when he bought the truck. He draped a couple of t-shirts over the window for that night.
Early Monday morning, he woke up jsut after 1am. I woke up and he asked if I could take him home. He said when he woke up he didn’t ever remember where he was. He told me his friend wouldn’t let him drive earlier that day(that’s the only good thing she did) , so she took him to my house to sleep. As I drove him home, he talked to me about the events that had happened the night before. The two people who drugged him were drug dealers. They’d talked about cars and I’m sure it’s during that time that they drugged him. He said he didn’t realize they were dealers until they tried to get him and his roommate to buy drugs. Not jsut pot, but the hard stuff. He said he and his roommate had taken the two guys home, so he’d told the cops where the guys live. The cops in our town keep a pretty good eye on drug trafficking so I’m sure they already knew who those guys were anyway.
He’s been feeling much better since Monday. He asked me if we could celebrate his birthday tonight. I told him that works for me. He’s even more determined now to go back to school and get back into baseball. I hope he sticks with it because he’s one helluva short-stop! He’s still feeling responsible for what happened, but I’m hoping in time that he’ll realize he had no control over that.
My oldest daughter who is also middle child, Kiwi, showed up at my work last night with a set of keys. I asked her what they go to, they were to the car she’s been looking at. She’s been wanting a car for over a year and I haven’t been able to afford to buy her one. Plus, she didn’t have a job until about 3 months ago. I told her that I can’t help her pay her insurance, but I will get on a policy with her so her payments will be lower. She said she knew that I couldn’t but said insurance won’t be a problem for her. I’m proud of her because in only a short amount of time, she’s been able to save enough money to buy her car. She hasn’t spent her money on anything other than her prom dress. I think it displays a sense of responsibility on her part. Now, we jsut have to find affordable insurance for her 🙂
That’s what I nicknamed our daughter when she was a baby and that’s what we’ve continued calling her through the years. She’s in her first year of choir at school, she loves it and she says it’s something she wants to continue doing in the coming years. The school had their Christmas program for the choir last night. I found out two days earlier and had to switch my work schedule. I told my Significant Other about it and he made a point to get off work early so he could come too. It’s the first time Tater has had her parents together for any type of event in her life other than her birth and first birthday and first Christmas. He’s missed out on a lot of events in her life. When he was married to the Witch, he got Tater on his weekends, but otherwise never attended anything she had going on. I don’t believe it was a lack of interest on his part, it was the Witch intervening and not putting our daughter’s life as a priority. The distance was always a factor for her, even though we’re, maybe, 20 miles away. It was always what was convenient for her. Bitch. I know that sounds bad on his part, and he and I have talked about it at great lengths. She called the shots in their marriage, even when his attendance to such events was needed. He knows it was very wrong to let her rule over things the way she did.
Last night was perfect though. My mom was there too. Tater was so cute on stage with all the bopping of her head and her facial expressions. We had such a good time watching her. When it was over, she ran over and hugged her dad and didn’t let go. It meant a lot to her to have him there and it meant a lot to me, as well. When I lost him years ago, I had such a void in my life where he once was. Our marriage wasn’t easy, but we loved each other and never stopped. We jsut couldn’t make things work. Later on, there were others for me…ok, 2 (not at the same time) in my life and one that I loved very much. Things jsut didn’t work out with either of them and for different reasons. I don’t know what the next few months hold for me. I’m hoping we’ll still be together. We’re jsut taking one day at a time. He’s the love of my life, there’s only one after him that came really close years ago. And it’s too bad things didn’t work out and I’ve told him so (the ex-bf, not the S.O.). But as for my S.O., I love that man more than I could ever describe. I’m thankful I have him back in my life. Maybe now that we’re both older and wiser, we can do things right this time. Only time will tell. I do know one thing, the sex was good before, but it’s friggin amazing now! I mean…dayam! Ahem…anyway. I’m hoping he’s not working Christmas day. He had to work all through Thanksgiving weekend. It would be wonderful if he could spend Christmas day with Tater, that hasn’t happened since her first Christmas. I’m gonna start talking to him about it now so he can maybe get that squared away with the boss. Well, here’s hoping…
Yesterday I had a day off from work. Somehow I always find myself dealing with work on my days off in one form or another. Whether it’s on the phone or that I have to go up there for a brief amount of time. We had a meeting yesterday and just as I was walking out of there, my phone started vibrating. It was my significant other. I was talking to one of the other managers, so I decided I would call him back when I left. I had to go stick something in my box and then I was on my way out. My boss stopped me before I could leave. Right before that my phone started vibrating once again. Since I had talked to my significant other only a couple of hours earlier, I knew something was up. I immediately called him when I got outside. He started babbling and wasn’t making much sense. I had to stop him and ask him to repeat what he said.
He has a daughter from a relationship he had with his high school sweetheart before he met me. She’s 19 now and completely lost. She called him yesterday and dropped the bombshell on him that she’s pregnant. Oh goodness. Even the thought of us being grandparents at this age…wow! And yes, I include myself in this equation because we intend to see this thing through, us, I mean. There’s no uncertainty in either of us whether this will work out. Anyway, he had already made plans with friends last night to celebrate a birthday. He decided to go talk to his daughter instead to find out what her plans are for this. I sent him a text after a couple of hours and told him to let me know how it went. He called me not long after that to tell me it’s like talking to a brick wall with her. But she plans to keep the baby and see things through. Both of us know it won’t be easy for her. The chances of her staying with her boyfriend are slim.
He told me that since she couldn’t let him know about her situation face-to-face, he dropped the bombshell on her too. He told her we have reconciled and he explained to her that things didn’t work out with us before because of what he had done. She had some questions, but she was excited. I was so relieved! Next, he plans to tell his mother. He also told his daughter that she will have to tell his mom about her situation. I’m shocked about all this, but at the same time, I’m excited. Our daughter is excited that she’s going to be an aunt. I think that once the dust settles and everyone gets over the shock, everything will be just fine.
Two days ago my middle child turned 18. She thinks she’s found the love of her life. She decided that a year ago. My son assures me that she’ll get over that, eventually. He did. He went through the same thing, only at an earlier age. One thing I am relieved of is that her sperm donor can never lay legal claim to her. Even if he ever tried, I know he wouldn’t have had a leg to stand on because of his 17 year absence from her life. My son starts back to the local junior college next week and my youngest is now in the 8th grade. It all goes by so fast!
My oldest daughter jsut got braces a couple of months ago. My son, due to circumstances beyond our control, has to get braces. My youngest daughter…braces. AAAHHHHHHH!!!!!!!